WHAT IF YOU COULD BE YOURSELF?
Hello! My name is Kano, Tamaki 鹿野環 (Tamaki is my first name), and my pronouns are they/them/theirs. I am a settler registered clinical counsellor (RCC) on the unceded traditional ancestral territories of the the Səl̓ílwətaʔ/Selilwitulh (Tsleil-Waututh), xʷməθkʷəy̓əm (Musqueam), and Skwxwú7mesh Úxwumixw (Squamish) Peoples (colonially known as Vancouver).
Please check out this site about my practice, and feel free to contact me or book a free initial consultation to discuss any questions you may have.
In today’s society, there are a lot of mixed messages, moving goal posts, the climate crisis and plague, and different people wanting different things for us or from us.
Meeting all of the expectations set by the society, loved ones, and ourselves, while trying to live life to the fullest and also yarning to be yourself is way too much and won’t be pretty.
So what are we supposed to do to do well, be safe, and also be ourselves? How are we supposed to feel better? And how do we get there? To me, that is counselling.
To me it is this process of connecting with our true selves and all of our desires, motivations, joys, sorrows, wisdom, and resources including the knowledge and skills. It is the process of getting to know yourself and discovering that you are enough. Some of parts of us have been silenced or stigmatized, some of that are in overdrive or shutdown from past trauma, and some of that are untapped. And that’s why everyone’s counselling process has to be customized to each.
One of the most important fundamentals of counselling is that it is healing of and by relationships (“rapport”). So, the first important specialty I offer is my lived experience as a trans, queer, migrant, Asian, settler of colour with healed and healing trauma who experience neurodiversity and accessibility barriers (invisible / non-apparent disability). I am one of you in varying degrees. You do not have to take on the emotional labour of education.
Also, I believe most people of any identity struggle from some form of disempowerment and may can benefit from this way of holding a space. We will reclaim the space together.
The second specialty is my knowledge of how this capitalist, supremacist, colonial society works. I have read about the status quo ideology, done a lot of unlearning of implicit assumptions, but also struggled in this society from many perspectives. I have twenty years of experience working in various positions from a labourer to a low-level manager, and I have experienced overt and covert ways people and systems can harm individuals and groups.
Third, I grew up in a culture that engaged with cognition, body / somatic, spiritual, and time differently than here. I not only experience myself as a whole but also interact with the world and people around me in an embodied whole-person way. Especially with the rise in awareness of somatic / body-based therapies, I am pleased to offer fluency in the non-verbal as a specialty.
Forth, I show up as a community member. You would see me at protests, marches, organizing, etc. When I say there are good people and I am hopeful for the future, I am speaking from evidence not toxic positivity.
Lastly, I have training in and offer the following modalities: EMDR, body-centered, CBT, DBT, art therapy, existential, and culturally sensitive.
What does a session look like?
The basic approach is for you and me to co-create an optimum space for healing. Our space should feel a little safer to show your true self than the outside society. Some basics apply to all, like your consent is the primary guide. But the rest of what that looks like varies. For instance, do you feel like people interrupt you a lot? This space you may feel like you have lots of space. Another example, do you feel like there are too many choices? In this space, you might have more supportive structures.
Because we tend to operate around thoughts and reason in day-to-day, I will likely at some points suggest a different way of being, a different way of holding yourself, so you can get to know yourself better and maybe even admire your greatness. This may relate art, attention, processing, or body-centred / somatic, but don’t worry, you and I will only pick the ones that you want to try.
When it comes to doing the work, depending on the person, counselling with me may be about
- Reducing or managing symptoms
- Healing from or addressing conflicts
- Developing insight into the conflict between surviving and thriving,
- Living authentically vs giving up privilege/safety.
- aligning with power for survival vs. resistance / fighting for equity
- authentic self in a cultural, religious, or corporate contexts
- Healing / managing trauma of systems (systemic racism, systemic ableism), including the society as the system.
- Reducing, mitigating, or managing symptoms of trauma, shifting your relationship with trauma from an obstacle to wisdom.
- developing confidence and mastery to protect from new trauma
- Unlearning the overvaluation of logic and connecting with your own somatic, emotional, cultural, spiritual experiences.
- getting liberated from socialized or internalized expectations and -isms
- acquired patterns / habits / thoughts (inadequacy, insecurity, imposter syndrome), including self-imposed ableism, productivism, and classism
- developing confidence and mastery in navigating a context of power imbalance and/or systemic discrimination.
Online Counselling or online art therapy $140 plus GST for a 60-minute session or $210 plus GST for a 90-minute session. When covered by a program (FNHA, ICBC, etc), the fees would be reduced to match the program coverage.
A limited number of free or half-cost counselling spots are available. Please inquire at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Consulting: $85 – $120 plus GST / hour
Initial Meeting: Free – please email or book from the client portal.
For any questions about the process of counselling and/or just to get a sense of how it feels to sit with me, please feel free to book an initial meet at my booking site.
Note: Currently, only online counselling is offered.
The Experiential Studio is low-VOC, fragrance-free, strobe-reduced, quiet, and low-stimuli. Any sudden or intense stimuli are introduced with consent of the participants. Examples of avoided stimuli include a meditation bell, strobe lights, pulsers, vivid colours, both artificial and natural smoke and smells, textures, or bright lights.
There are two ways to contact me.
- Use the contact form or email. Please be mindful not to include details as emails are not considered secure.
- Book an initial consult from the booking site.
All questions are welcome, and I typically answer within two business days. For all virtual appointments, your email address is used to create an account for secure video access. Please let me know in advance if you do not consent to this use.
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