I believe pronouns to be a fact, not a preference, When I am introducing myself, I say “My pronouns are they/them/theirs.”
But I don’t ask people to tell me.
Because for many of us, pronouns are a choice between outing and lying.
If there is any reason I need to use a pronoun, such as quoting them in an article, I ask what pronouns they want me to use in that context.
(I don’t believe in “just don’t use any pronouns and instead repeat the name” as a universal default. Certainly, this would be the choice for some. But not as a default because this practice has been co-opted by those who do so to avoid dignifying trans people’s authentic pronouns.”)
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