What does a session look like?
The basic approach is for you and me to co-create an optimum space for healing. Our space should feel a little safer to show your true self than the outside society. Some basics apply to all, like your consent is the primary guide. But the rest of what that looks like varies. For instance, do you feel like people interrupt you a lot? This space you may feel like you have lots of space. Another example, do you feel like there are too many choices? In this space, you might have more supportive structures.
Because we tend to operate around thoughts and reason in day-to-day, I will likely at some points suggest a different way of being, a different way of holding yourself, so you can get to know yourself better and maybe even admire your greatness. This may relate art, attention, processing, or body-centred / somatic, but don’t worry, you and I will only pick the ones that you want to try.
When it comes to doing the work, depending on the person, counselling with me may be about
- Reducing or managing symptoms
- Healing from or addressing conflicts
- Developing insight into the conflict between surviving and thriving,
- Living authentically vs giving up privilege/safety.
- aligning with power for survival vs. resistance / fighting for equity
- authentic self in a cultural, religious, or corporate contexts
- Healing / managing trauma of systems (systemic racism, systemic ableism), including the society as the system.
- Reducing, mitigating, or managing symptoms of trauma, shifting your relationship with trauma from an obstacle to wisdom.
- developing confidence and mastery to protect from new trauma
- Unlearning the overvaluation of logic and connecting with your own somatic, emotional, cultural, spiritual experiences.
- getting liberated from socialized or internalized expectations and -isms
- acquired patterns / habits / thoughts (inadequacy, insecurity, imposter syndrome), including self-imposed ableism, productivism, and classism
- developing confidence and mastery in navigating a context of power imbalance and/or systemic discrimination.